Thursday, 8 September 2016

Judgemental People


Judgemental people are always something you are going to encounter throughout your life. No matter how old you are or where you are in your life, there will always be someone who disagrees with what you are doing. It is easy to restrict yourself because of this. You can restrict yourself from doing what you want to do as you're too nervous about others opinions. This is something that I have done a lot in the past, which has made become somewhat rebellious in the time after. You tend to put yourself in a box due to the fear of what others will think of you, which when you build up the courage to break out of the box. You can sometimes do something which is out of your nature. This is what I have found with me, but I know that others react differently.

The way I tend to deal with judgemental people now days is to listen to what they say, as sometimes their thoughts can help. So I take time to breathe and reflect on whether what has been said is true or not. If it's not for whatever reason, even if there's no exact reason other than the way you feel, I would continue to do it. As long as you're happy, safe and healthy whilst doing the thing that people judge you for that's all that matters. The only person who's going to be with you throughout your whole life is in fact you, the person reading this right now. So you should live your life for yourself.

N x

Sunday, 4 September 2016

Dating Other Girls


Question:


Is it wrong to consider dating other girls whilst knowing that if this one girl asked I'd jump at the chance, although I know that she'd never ask?

Answer: 


Dating other girls or boys for that matter is always somewhat tricky if you have strong feelings for another person. If the girl has not shown an interest in the past or the present it is likely that she won't show an interest in the future. My advice for this would be to build the courage and talk to her about your feelings. Explain to her how you feel about her, hopefully she has similar feelings to you and you can progress. But if she doesn't have the same feelings as you, I encourage you to try and move on. 

Maybe give yourself a little bit of space away from the girl and on your own to come to terms with your feelings and to somewhat get over the girl, before then moving on and meeting new girls. As cliché as it sounds there are plenty more fish in the sea. As hard as it sounds now, there can be another person out there who you may have mutual feelings and fall madly in love together. Never stop believing in love... it's a powerful thing! 

N x