Wednesday, 28 December 2016

Three Pieces Of Advice


As we come up to the end of 2016, it's always good to reflect on yourself and the lessons you've learnt. It feels like it was just yesterday I was with my friends celebrating as we counted down to 2016. However I have learnt some valuable lessons this year, three pieces of advice I have hand picked for you. 


Things will always work out

No matter how you feel, things will always work out eventually. They may not go exactly as you planned but they will definitely settle at some point, allowing you to either continue your chosen path or to rethink and create a new path, which may work out for the best in the end. Never undermine the power of fate, so take a breath and stress less. 


Stand up for yourself more


There's always going to be a time in your life where people aren't going to be so nice to you and sometimes will somewhat petrify you, but by standing up for yourself and allowing people to hear about how you feel, can create more positives then negatives. I don't condemn violence, but a verbal point can create such a difference and allow you to have power over something that you originally thought you couldn't. 

Work for what you believe in


There's a quote that I adore "She created a life she loved" and honestly this is so true. Do the things you love and fight for the things you believe in whether that be gay rights or against animal testing. The power one individual person can make, is unbelievable. You can achieve anything once you put your mind to it. So that degree you've spent all that money on or that dream job, work hard for it and you'll be amazed at the outcome.


N๐Ÿ’•

Saturday, 3 December 2016

Defined By A Diagnosis


I think in today's society it is easy to think that we are defined by a diagnosis whether that be big or small. But this shouldn't be the case, just because someone tells you that you have a specific thing whether that be anxiety or depression this shouldn't then become a thing that defines you fully. It may be useful to have this somewhat of a label now attached to you, for next time when you are discussing it with someone but the idea that it can prevent you from doing things shouldn't be the case. Take the Paralympics for example, there are people who are consistently pushing their boundaries by doing things that society says they can't do or even sometimes things that professionals and loved ones say they can't. Nothing's impossible! You can have no limbs and still swim. You can have anxiety and still enter that exam. You can have depression and still have days where you are happy. I think this again is a factor that we shouldn't compare ourselves to others. 

You may be thinking what's the point of this post, which is understandable. But from my view the point of this post is to make it clear that you are worth more. I have spoken to many people in the past who have been diagnosed and the thing that has affected them more has been the diagnosis not the thing that they have been diagnosed with in the beginning. This is because they like many, got confused that about how they should live, instead of living as they please and trying their best to not let the diagnosis hold them down. Sure, you can get some bad days, but there are also many good days to make up for them. So remember to follow your dreams.


N ๐Ÿ’•

Saturday, 26 November 2016

Supporting Off The Record


Off The Record (also known as OTR) are a mental health charity who help support young people. They do this in many ways, from simply providing information to set young people on the right path or being creative with art-therapy-based sessions. They are a charity who are passionate about creating awareness of the importance of mental health just as much as physical health. They have been and always will be a free of charge, confidential and self-referral charity. They support many young people each year to help them help themselves or to help others. 

As they are a charity who work for free, this can sometimes become challenging. So they are looking for anyone who can either spare some money themselves or who can spread the word to someone who could donate. This is an amazing opportunity for them to have their money DOUBLED over the course of three days. So if you're willing to give £10 for example that will then become £20, which will make a huge difference to many young people's lives. Personally Off The Record have helped me to improve my confidence and do things that I never thought I could. 

Your donations will go towards a new venue called Inspiration Works, which will be the home to all sorts or group sessions, community work and creative mental health support. There's only three days left for you to help support this truly spectacular and moving charity. 

If you would like to be notified about donating on that date or simply just want to find out a little bit more about donating please click on either of the following links...


Every little helps! 

N ๐Ÿ’•

Wednesday, 23 November 2016

My DofE Experience


A while back now a good friend of mine asked me for some advice about the Duke of Edinburgh award, which inspired me to make this post as she said that it had helped her to hear about someone else's view about the whole experience. I took part in the Bronze DofE in a local youth club and to anyone who is thinking of doing DofE I would highly recommend it. 

Firstly it is not going to be an easy experience, you can get some really difficult points which encourages you to challenge yourself to your fullest. It also helps you develop your teamwork skills - if you are doing the exhibition part you're team mates will be there to help you as much as you do to them. Which through the team, you can make strong friendships that last. I did my DofE about two years ago now and I am still friends with the three girls who were in my original group. 


There are three parts to the DofE which is the expedition, volunteering and physical. I would recommend trying to complete both the volunteering and the physical before the exhibition as I found when I finished my last exhibition I was happy that I had completed it all as a whole and just had the nerves and excitement of the final presentation. The presentation may seem daunting at first but it's not that bad when you start planning and performing. My group took turns to say what was on the power point and because this was a joint experience, it makes it more exciting to talk about. 


The next important thing that I learnt from my DofE experience was to make sure you have comfortable boots. On my first practise walk I wore a pair of (what I thought would be comfy) Dr Martens. to say the least my feet still suffer from that incident now. However this did make me very keen to get a new pair of walking boots which made the whole experience more pleasant and which to this day are still my comfiest shoes.

Even if you don't think that you are capable to do the exhibition... you will surprise yourself, I definitely did! You can go on practise walks to boast your confidence about walking a long distance which would most likely help raise your stamina. It's worth a try as it is an experience like no other. Plus it looks great on your CV! 

N x

Saturday, 12 November 2016

My Time At University So Far


As you may or may have not known I am currently at university, so that's why I have taken some time away from blogging in order to give myself enough time to settle in and get used to the new amounts of work in which comes along with being a student.

I moved away from my hometown to enter a brand new city where I knew no one. As nervous as I was for this big move, it has definitely felt like a fresh start where I can reinvent myself into the person in which I want to be. Coming to university, I was nervous about making new friends and settling in, but after eight weeks I have already made some good friends and somewhere to call my second home. 


Living independently hasn't been as much of a difference for me as maybe it has been for others as my Dad has always encouraged me to do more things for myself. So the shock of washing my own clothes, taking out the bins and other somewhat adult chores wasn't as big of a deal for me. However finding the time in the day to do all the things in which I am supposed to do can sometimes be a little bit of a struggle. 

Overall university so far has been such an exciting and amazing experience. Juggling an academic life along with a social life means that no two days are ever the same. Although this is only my third month hear so far, I look forward to what the next three to four years holds for me.

N x

Thursday, 8 September 2016

Judgemental People


Judgemental people are always something you are going to encounter throughout your life. No matter how old you are or where you are in your life, there will always be someone who disagrees with what you are doing. It is easy to restrict yourself because of this. You can restrict yourself from doing what you want to do as you're too nervous about others opinions. This is something that I have done a lot in the past, which has made become somewhat rebellious in the time after. You tend to put yourself in a box due to the fear of what others will think of you, which when you build up the courage to break out of the box. You can sometimes do something which is out of your nature. This is what I have found with me, but I know that others react differently.

The way I tend to deal with judgemental people now days is to listen to what they say, as sometimes their thoughts can help. So I take time to breathe and reflect on whether what has been said is true or not. If it's not for whatever reason, even if there's no exact reason other than the way you feel, I would continue to do it. As long as you're happy, safe and healthy whilst doing the thing that people judge you for that's all that matters. The only person who's going to be with you throughout your whole life is in fact you, the person reading this right now. So you should live your life for yourself.

N x

Sunday, 4 September 2016

Dating Other Girls


Question:


Is it wrong to consider dating other girls whilst knowing that if this one girl asked I'd jump at the chance, although I know that she'd never ask?

Answer: 


Dating other girls or boys for that matter is always somewhat tricky if you have strong feelings for another person. If the girl has not shown an interest in the past or the present it is likely that she won't show an interest in the future. My advice for this would be to build the courage and talk to her about your feelings. Explain to her how you feel about her, hopefully she has similar feelings to you and you can progress. But if she doesn't have the same feelings as you, I encourage you to try and move on. 

Maybe give yourself a little bit of space away from the girl and on your own to come to terms with your feelings and to somewhat get over the girl, before then moving on and meeting new girls. As clichรฉ as it sounds there are plenty more fish in the sea. As hard as it sounds now, there can be another person out there who you may have mutual feelings and fall madly in love together. Never stop believing in love... it's a powerful thing! 

N x

Tuesday, 30 August 2016

My Grown Up Checklist


This is a collaboration post with the lovely Personal Capital. They have asked me to do a post regarding their Growing Up Checklist project, where they encourage people to make a list of the things they want to do or where they see themselves in the future. So I have decided to make a checklist of my own on where I hope to see myself by the time I am 25 years old. I think this is a lovely idea as it helps you to make personal goals for you to achieve, encourages you to make the most out of life and somewhat gets you to reflect on where you are in life at the moment.

Family

I would hope to spend more quality time with them, even if that's not every week. The time I spend with them I want to be of a high quality and appreciate the time I spend with them a lot more. I would also like to have regular phone calls, so I can keep up to date with what's going on in their life's.

Friends

I'd hope to have a close network of friends along with my best friend who I'd hope to see regularly. We will hopefully still be channelling our inner teens by going on adventures with them now and again. 

Career

At the moment, I would've hoped to become a teacher preferably in English. But if that doesn't work out I would hope to be in a career that is different everyday, either due to travelling or a variety of different types of work that will help me to keep myself busy. I would also like to possibly see myself thinking about writing my own book, this has been a dream of mine ever since I was a little girl and I would've hoped that I gave this some more realistic thought to help it come true.

Finance

I like to see myself financially stable and being able to look after myself without any support from others. I would also hope that I would have enough money to live comfortably with my own little place and car. 


Dating


Dating wise I would hope to see myself in a serious long term relationship where I feel happy, safe and encouraging each other to achieve our best. Possibly also looking to settle down with them.

Travel

By the time I am 25 I would've hoped that I would have travelled a lot more, possibly visited at least five other countries. In an ideal world I would've hoped to take a couple of months or so out to travel and explore on new adventures. I also see myself driving so I would like to think I would be going on lot of road trips.

N x

Wednesday, 24 August 2016

Talking About Suicide And Self Harm


I don't normally talk about the more serious topics on here. But actually I want people to know that it is okay to discuss this especially after the AQA exam board has taken their suicide lessons off of the syllabus. As this was a special request it gave me more reason to talk about it in a little more detail. This is hard topic to discuss for anyone no matter your age, gender or ethnicity as it can have a huge impact on people. So in order to hopefully make it a little easier to talk about, whether you know someone going through this, you are personally going through this or you just want to know a little bit more. I hope this helps...

1. Lose the taboo 
I think this is a clear beginner if you are going to discuss this top to try to lose the taboo associated with not being able to talk about it for one reason or another. It is perfectly acceptable to talk about them. One way that we can help people loose the taboo connected to this topic is to not say "committed a suicide" as this can easily connect it to being a crime in which suicide is definitely not. Instead replace the word "committed" to more respectful words like attempted, thought about or completed suicide.

2. Don't assume they're using it for attention - even if they seem happy
You can never know exactly how someone is feeling inside. If someone always seems happy and confines in you, this doesn't mean they are doing it for attention. The same as if someone is always sad it doesn't mean they are doing it for attention. Most often than not they don't do it for attention, they do it because they are struggling with the stresses that their life holds. Suicide or self harm is a way to communicate pain and are unhealthy coping methods and when we think about it that way, we are thinking that suicidal thoughts and self harm are ways to cope with pain whilst still holding in there.

3. Understand that both self harm and suicide are different things and don't come together
Someone can self harm and this doesn't mean that they are also suicidal. The same as if someone is feeling suicidal doesn't mean they are self harming. They are different things, although they can be linked together it doesn't mean they have to be addressing both and just because someone is having suicidal thoughts does not mean they will be self harming and via-versa.

4. Refer them to someone like the Samaritans or their local doctors
You don't have to feel like you have to help them on your own, actually it is healthy for them and you to encourage them to seek help or with the other people they have told. If you don't feel like you can help them enough on your own, or with the other people they have told. Ensure to refer them to either the Samaritans or local doctors in order to help them receive a little more help that you may not be able to give them and if your friend said they got help and it didn't help, explain to them that there is a range of help and you would be happy to go with them if they would like.

5. Understand that it is hard for someone to talk about 
It's okay to find this topic hard to talk about as it is something that shows that someone you love and care about is struggling or if this is about you it's okay to find it hard to talk about. The most important thing is that the person struggling doesn't go through this alone as that makes it a lot harder and once you open up this conversation, it does not have to be the only thing you talk about. Talk about their strengths, what things they like to do and all the other things you talk about as friends.

6. Make it clear that there are people that care about them... you being one of them
When their talking about it, make sure that you don't cut them short because if you do it's most likely that they will not trust to confine in you again. Show them that you care by prioritising them and offering to meet up again to either help take their mind of it or talk about it a little more. Also keep inviting them out, they may keep saying no, however that invite let's them know that you care and can make a world of a difference to them.

7. Don't assume 
When I say this I mean don't assume that this is because someone has depression or if you know someone that has depression that they must self harm or think about suicide. This isn't always the case. Someone could have depression and do or have these thoughts, just the same as how they can be diagnosed with it and not.

8. Try not to use the words
For some people using the words "suicide" and "self-harm" can make is hard to talk about. So check in with your friends to see how they want to refer to these words, even maybe come up with a funny code word for suicide or self harm, like "I am having cheery thoughts again" this can help them to feel more comfortable with talking about it. Remember you are not a counsellor trying to fix there suicidal thoughts, you are a friend trying to provide support.

9. Keep it confidential
Whatever is said to you about any of their problems or their feelings or their actions. Make sure you keep it confidential, by this I mean not to spread the word that they are feeling like this. If for example you are really worried it's okay to tell their parents or their loved ones but let them know that you are doing this and encouraging them to tell their parents or a loved one first with you. Supporting someone who is struggling can have an impact on your own mental health. Therefore, talking to someone about your friend can be a really good coping tool. When you do talk about them to another person, you don't have to use their real name.

10. Understand there are different forms
By this I mean don't assume that everyone who self harms cut their wrists or all people who suffer with suicide overdose. There are different ways that self harm and suicide can affect them. If they say something that they consider if one of the two, possible look it up and get a little bit more further research. Also, remember all of us feel pain in different ways and cope with pain differently. When was the last time you felt stressed and had a beer to chill out or smoked a fag to deal with anger or read a book to loose yourself for a while. Self harm and suicidal thoughts are ways to deal with pain.

N x

Thursday, 18 August 2016

Where Have I Been?


Some of you may have noticed that I haven't been blogging that much recently compared to the amount I normally blog. I normally try to have two posts per week, preferably one on a Sunday and the other on a Wednesday but I haven't managed to get around to doing that for a long time. I have however had a few posts in the waiting line, I just want to make sure they are fully ready and to the best standard before I post them.


With that said I thought I'd talk to you about the things that have been making me so busy. To start with I have recently just got home from a beautiful holiday with my three closest friends. I had a lovely time and made so many memories that we will remember for a long time. We spent a fair amount of time at the beach which is unusual for an England holiday, but other than one typically British day the weather was surprisingly lovely for us.


Above is a grainy photo taken from the Mentality Facebook Page which is an amazing project ran by Off The Record. As you can see from the sign it is all about "young people, changing minds" and trying to make more people aware of mental health. Which is something I am very passionate about as you can probably tell from recent posts. This is another thing that I have been up to recently, which is volunteering and helping to raise awareness.


I have also been spending a lot of time with loved ones, whether that's been days out or in my spare time as I will be leaving for university soon. I have been cherishing the little moments with them and appreciating the things that I most often take for granted. 

N x

Saturday, 6 August 2016

Lessons I Have Learned During Sixth Form


Apologies for the while since I blogged last, life has been a little hectic. But today I am back with a post collaboration with the wonderful Girl On The Bench. We've decided to do a video along with a blog post discussing the things we have learned at school. So without further a do, here are a few of the things that I have learned during my time at sixth form.

1. Don't be afraid to be who you are. You don't always have to follow the crowd. This was a struggle for me as I have always wanted to fit in but over my time at sixth form I have ended up in a very happy place due to being myself. It has also given me a handful of amazing people who support my choices.

2. Follow the path that you like and do the things you love. I felt especially at sixth there was a pressure to go to university even if you didn't want to. At first this felt very daunting and made me get a little lost with what I wanted with my future. But luckily I managed to find a course that wasn't due to pressure but was something that I felt passionate about in an environment I love. At the end of the day your life is yours no one else's.

3. You never stop learning. It sounds cheesy but the saying is true. You do always learn something new everyday.

4. You're not going to always get along with everyone - that's okay. Not everyone is supposed to like you and your not supposed to like everyone else, it's human nature. So don't pressure yourself to be around people you don't like or don't respect you.

5. You're never too independent to ask for a little help. I have definitely become a lot more independent since starting sixth form for a range of reasons. But you have to understand that you're not always going to be able to do everything so never feel afraid to ask for a little help now and again. Even if that's financially or a good catch up with a good friend.

Now that I've left sixth form and have been able to reflect on my time I have definitely realised that it was a big journey which has taught me so much about myself. I have also gained some amazing friendships over the time and with my social life I have definitely learned a lot outside of the sixth form environment.

N x

Wednesday, 20 July 2016

Prom 2016


Friday 8th July 2016... I had my leavers prom for sixth form. If you have been following me for a while you might recognise some things from my "Throwback To Prom" post, like the people and my dress. Luckily I bought my dress with the intention of wearing it twice, so I just thought I'd put that out there before we begin. 

Prom 2016 was much more casual than my last prom but still gave us all an excuse to dress up a little more fancy than we normally would. We were welcomed to this beautiful building with a glass of champagne which made the whole event feel far more fancier and sophisticated. As there are four "campuses" to my overall sixth form it gave everyone a chance to talk and catch up for one last time before we all part our separate ways into the scary world of adulthood. Prom 2016 was definitely one of the more positive memories from my time at sixth form and made all the hard work from the past two years worth it.


My Best Friend


The View


A Selfie With The Girls



The View After Sunset


On The Way

N x

Sunday, 17 July 2016

My CD Collection


Ever since I was a little girl, music has been my escape from the struggles of life along with the celebrations. I have always been a big fan of music and I am one of those people who can be easily influenced by the songs that are playing. 

If I'm out and about you can always be certain that I have my ipod, full of all 1,860 songs, on me majority of the time. Washing the dishes, popping to the local shops, making dinner, train journeys and walks to visit friends: you will most likely see me wearing either my black headphones or my electric blue earphones. So it's not a surprise when I tell you that my CD collection is fairly large, with way over 60 CDs and counting.



So I thought I'd share a few of my favourite CDs with you. I would like to quickly put a disclaimer out there that I am by no means "bragging" amount of CD's I own, I have the amount I do because I have been collecting them for over 14 years. Also, although I may have a slightly diverse taste in music, all opinions are of my own and this is not sponsored in any way. With all that said, I hope you enjoy reading and it possibly gives you some ideas for your own purchases.




Suck It And See - Arctic Monkeys 
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I own all the Arctic Monkeys albums along with a vinyl. The fact they're my favourite band makes it hard to pick a favourite but at the moment I'm enjoying this album the most. 


Oh Wonder - Oh Wonder
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This is one of the most recent additions to my collection, but after listening to a few of their songs I fell in love and had to purchase it.


Cry Baby - Melanie Martinez
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This is most likely one of the more personal album's in the collection, I also love the fact that it tells a story throughout the tracks.


Franz Ferdinand - Franz Ferdinand 
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I enjoyed listening to their music when I was younger, especially "take me out" so I had to have it for all time sake.


New Glow - Matt and Kim
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This is my only signed version of any of my CDs. I managed to pick this up after one of their gigs that I went to back in February. 


Feline - Ella Eyre
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This is another artist that I was lucky enough to see live and her stage presence was exceptional. I've always loved her music hence why I own the CD.


N x

Wednesday, 13 July 2016

Instagram Diary | 4


The Last Shadow Puppets Concert
(Top left)

Father's Day 
(Top middle)

The Pub With My Friends
(Top right)

Walks With My Family 
(Bottom left)

Picnic's With My Friends 
(Bottom middle and right)


My New Favourite Place 
(Top left)

Adventures With My Little Sister 
(Top middle)

My Final Piece For A Level Art 
(Top right)

Summers Day 
(Bottom left)

Late Night Drives 
(Bottom middle)

A Cheeky Selfie
(Bottom right)

It's been a while since I have done an Instagram Diary post so I thought I'd update you with the photos I have been sharing. For those of you who haven't seen my fairly recent post about "my addiction to photographs" you may not know that I love almost everything about photographs. So as you may have guessed Instagram (for me) is definitely a loved app of mine.

Instagram Diary | One / Two / Three

N x

Sunday, 10 July 2016

Attachments And Commitments | Advice


Question: 

How can I help person A? She can't physically leave person B because she is basically his carer. He doesn't treat her well and she can't live her life because he is her number one priority. She can't come and go as she pleases let along leave him. For the last twenty years that she's been with him she's helped him with everything and I don't know how long she can put up with it. He hasn't been out the house properly for four years and either person A or person C has to be in the house with him every day. They had a gambling problem but they have done this thing where they can ban themself. Apart from that, it was the only they went too and something they could enjoy. But they would always spend all their money and it couldn't go on anymore. Person A doesn't know what she can do, it's like she's trapped!

Answer:

From this it sounds like person A is in a sticky situation. It's understandable for person A to feel trapped and partially person C to feel a little trapped them self too. I feel like anyone who is a carer for someone has to do what they have to do, it's part of their life and becomes mundane especially after twenty years. However this shouldn't mean that person A or person C should not have fun themselves either.

My advice on this situation is to take time to do the things that you like. Possibly a daily hobby could be something that could be done in the home whilst person B is well occupied. This could be something like painting, reading or even possibly playing computer games. This way it would give person A and person C something that they can do to take them away from the stresses whilst not having to feel guilty about it. Then possibly once a week person A could go out with friends whilst person C looks after person B and vice versa. 

If this is too difficult as person B is in a critical condition. I would recommend looking into some charity's in your local area where carers can go to meet other carers and have a slight break whilst person B is being looked after. This would be a great place for person A and C to go so that they could meet new people in a similar situation as them. This would mean you could get advice from them as well as providing some sort of laid back counselling.

N x

Wednesday, 6 July 2016

Being An Introverted Extrovert


I would consider myself to be an "introverted extrovert" and for those of you who are somewhat baffled by this phrase... it means someone who falls in the middle of being outgoing as well as enjoying time alone. When these terms come into society we immediately think you have to be one or the other - you can't be both. But the fact is as some may know there is a scale in which you can be on, which proves you can be between the two. 

I am a big fan of getting out and meeting new people. Spending time with friends and basically having a fairly unique social life. If you were to see me with my friends on a night you would most likely think I am extrovert. I would be laughing and joking and most likely trying to get you involved with the fun. However I am also very much of a introvert too, I enjoy spending time on my own and it wouldn't be unusual if you were to see me in a coffee shop enjoying a cup of tea in my own little world.

As much as I do enjoy to spend time on my own, if I spend too much time on my own. I fall into a little Alice in Wonderland hole of worry. Where I can only be brought out of by talking to a fellow human being. So there's both positives and negatives to being an introverted extrovert, as like many things in life. 

I thought I'd make this post as I think sometimes it is healthy to reflect on yourself and where you are at this moment in your life and where you want to be aiming for. But to truly aim for that goal in which you dream to achieve, you must find inner confidence first. So let me know in the comments whether you're an introvert or extrovert or a bit of both like me? 


N x

Sunday, 3 July 2016

University Relationships | Advice


Question : 


Is it possible to have a strong relationship when either both or one person moves away to University? Do long distance relationships really work?



Answer:


I have heard of many different outcomes of relationships at university. I think it is something that depends on how strong the relationship between you two are. Also you may have to consider the distance if they are moving away from your home town. For example if they are moving an hour away, there is a much more likely chance of being able to visit regularly. But if you move say two hours + away, it would be much more harder to return - meaning you will end up seeing them less often than you probably would've hoped. 


But to move on a more positive note I have seen relationships where one person is in a completely different country studying and the relationship being stronger than ever. Due to social media's like Skype it means it's easier than ever to connect at distances. I've also seen relationship where people are closer and they do not work out.

My advice on this topic would be to give it a go, you can live next door to somebody and it might not work. Have a talk with each other discussing your worry about one of you potentially moving away and talk about ways you could meet and whether you consider it would be the right choice for you two to stay together. No matter what the outcome is don't let your relationship affect yours or their personal goals. 

N x

Friday, 1 July 2016

Things To Do This Summer


As amazing a Summer can be, I sometimes find that it's hard to keep yourself busy and make the most of it. I find this is especially true if you are lucky enough to have a Summer holiday or break. So with this in mind I thought I'd create a list of a few of the things in which I could do to keep myself busy and make the most of it, and thought I'd share a few of them with you. If you can think of any others leave be sure to leave them in the comments or even make your own post or video about things you'd do. I'd love to see them.


1 | Create a blog or YouTube channel

2 | If you don't already get a job or volunteer

3 | Learn a musical instrument 

4 | Go on days out and travel with loved ones

5 | Read books or maybe even write one

6 | Have a spring clean

7 | Do some colouring in or create your own piece of art

8 | Go on holiday 

9 | Go on a bike ride

10 | Bake a cake or cook a new recipe 

11 | Go through a Wreck this Journal

N x

Sunday, 26 June 2016

Ask Elegant Anchors | Advice Column


This is something that has always been a fairly big passion of mine. Ever since I was young, I have always gained a lot of satisfaction over helping people. The other day I was pondering about new ideas that I could do in order to make Elegant Anchors a little bit more interesting, when I came across the idea of creating an advice column. I love giving people advice about things that they may be struggling with or are just a little curious about and I am often told that the advice I give is fairly helpful. 

So welcome to a new section on Elegant Anchors... "The Advice Column" Here will be a place that if you (yes, you) could ask anything you would like to ask about any topic whether that's lifestyle, work, nature or even friends. You can ask for advice in either the comment section of any of my posts or by email (nikkita0703@gmail.com). If there is something that I don't feel like I am able to give advice about, I will research personally into the topic in order to give the best advice I possibly can. Also if the advice is given via a blog post, it will be anonymous.


So ask away... 

N x

Wednesday, 22 June 2016

The Fashion Tag



How would you describe your style?

If I had to describe my style, I would most likely say casual. However I do always like to try to look colourful and fairly formal as it's always good to make a good impression on anyone you many meet. 

What are your wardrobe staples?

I have a few wardrobe staples if I am honest. One being a good leather jacket as it can help transform any look. 

Most expensive item in your closet?

The most expensive item in my closet are my black classic Dr Martens. 

Most wanted item?

I normally like the latest trend, however at the moment my converse are beginning to fall apart. So I would say a new pair of converse.

Favourite designer?

I wouldn't say I have a definite favourite designer. But if I had to say, it would most likely be a the good old classic Chanel. 

How much do you spend on clothes?

Depending on what it is, normally I'm a little cheap with clothes and love my bargains. So I normally always try to shop always during the sales, aiming to spend less than £10. 

What are your favourite places to shop?

My favourite places to shop at the moment are New Look, H&M and Primark.

Favourite fragrance?

My all time favourite fragrance is Vera Wang Lovestruck Floral Rush.

What's your favourite way to do your hair?

I love to wear my hair down and straightened as I think that's what suits me best personally. However I hate it when my hair gets in my face or when it rains and is windy it's a nightmare to keep it looking nice as it tends to go frizzy. If it's not like that, my other favourite is two pig tail plaits. 

What is your go-to outfit when you don't know what to wear?

My everyday go to outfit is a nice tee along with shorts and a good pair of tights. If I'm looking for a go-to outfit for the evening I tend to just throw on my leather jacket along with my brown heeled boots.

One fashion trend that you wish would come back or stay?

I don't have one specific one but I wish that the times where more people had their own individual style would stay or come back. 

Show us your most prize possession in your wardrobe

Image taken from "OOTD | Casual Autumn"
My most prize possession would be my Dr Martens for the fact I wanted these for years and then my Dad bought them for me as a present. I was over the moon, I then wore them on a 10 mile hike (bad decision, very bad decision). After a little bit of pain they no longer rub and are super comfortable to wear. 

If you've got to this point and want to take part in the tag, please do and maybe even leave a link in the comments. I would love to check them out. 


N x