Saturday, 3 December 2016

Defined By A Diagnosis

I think in today's society it is easy to think that we are defined by a diagnosis whether that be big or small. But this shouldn't be the case, just because someone tells you that you have a specific thing whether that be anxiety or depression this shouldn't then become a thing that defines you fully. It may be useful to have this somewhat of a label now attached to you, for next time when you are discussing it with someone but the idea that it can prevent you from doing things shouldn't be the case. Take the Paralympics for example, there are people who are consistently pushing their boundaries by doing things that society says they can't do or even sometimes things that professionals and loved ones say they can't. Nothing's impossible! You can have no limbs and still swim. You can have anxiety and still enter that exam. You can have depression and still have days where you are happy. I think this again is a factor that we shouldn't compare ourselves to others. 

You may be thinking what's the point of this post, which is understandable. But from my view the point of this post is to make it clear that you are worth more. I have spoken to many people in the past who have been diagnosed and the thing that has affected them more has been the diagnosis not the thing that they have been diagnosed with in the beginning. This is because they like many, got confused that about how they should live, instead of living as they please and trying their best to not let the diagnosis hold them down. Sure, you can get some bad days, but there are also many good days to make up for them. So remember to follow your dreams.

N 💕

Saturday, 26 November 2016

Supporting Off The Record

Off The Record (also known as OTR) are a mental health charity who help support young people. They do this in many ways, from simply providing information to set young people on the right path or being creative with art-therapy-based sessions. They are a charity who are passionate about creating awareness of the importance of mental health just as much as physical health. They have been and always will be a free of charge, confidential and self-referral charity. They support many young people each year to help them help themselves or to help others. 

As they are a charity who work for free, this can sometimes become challenging. So they are looking for anyone who can either spare some money themselves or who can spread the word to someone who could donate. This is an amazing opportunity for them to have their money DOUBLED over the course of three days. So if you're willing to give £10 for example that will then become £20, which will make a huge difference to many young people's lives. Personally Off The Record have helped me to improve my confidence and do things that I never thought I could. 

Your donations will go towards a new venue called Inspiration Works, which will be the home to all sorts or group sessions, community work and creative mental health support. There's only three days left for you to help support this truly spectacular and moving charity. 

If you would like to be notified about donating on that date or simply just want to find out a little bit more about donating please click on either of the following links...

Every little helps! 

N 💕

Wednesday, 23 November 2016

My DofE Experience

A while back now a good friend of mine asked me for some advice about the Duke of Edinburgh award, which inspired me to make this post as she said that it had helped her to hear about someone else's view about the whole experience. I took part in the Bronze DofE in a local youth club and to anyone who is thinking of doing DofE I would highly recommend it. 

Firstly it is not going to be an easy experience, you can get some really difficult points which encourages you to challenge yourself to your fullest. It also helps you develop your teamwork skills - if you are doing the exhibition part you're team mates will be there to help you as much as you do to them. Which through the team, you can make strong friendships that last. I did my DofE about two years ago now and I am still friends with the three girls who were in my original group. 

There are three parts to the DofE which is the expedition, volunteering and physical. I would recommend trying to complete both the volunteering and the physical before the exhibition as I found when I finished my last exhibition I was happy that I had completed it all as a whole and just had the nerves and excitement of the final presentation. The presentation may seem daunting at first but it's not that bad when you start planning and performing. My group took turns to say what was on the power point and because this was a joint experience, it makes it more exciting to talk about. 

The next important thing that I learnt from my DofE experience was to make sure you have comfortable boots. On my first practise walk I wore a pair of (what I thought would be comfy) Dr Martens. to say the least my feet still suffer from that incident now. However this did make me very keen to get a new pair of walking boots which made the whole experience more pleasant and which to this day are still my comfiest shoes.

Even if you don't think that you are capable to do the exhibition... you will surprise yourself, I definitely did! You can go on practise walks to boast your confidence about walking a long distance which would most likely help raise your stamina. It's worth a try as it is an experience like no other. Plus it looks great on your CV! 

N x

Saturday, 12 November 2016

My Time At University So Far

As you may or may have not known I am currently at university, so that's why I have taken some time away from blogging in order to give myself enough time to settle in and get used to the new amounts of work in which comes along with being a student.

I moved away from my hometown to enter a brand new city where I knew no one. As nervous as I was for this big move, it has definitely felt like a fresh start where I can reinvent myself into the person in which I want to be. Coming to university, I was nervous about making new friends and settling in, but after eight weeks I have already made some good friends and somewhere to call my second home. 

Living independently hasn't been as much of a difference for me as maybe it has been for others as my Dad has always encouraged me to do more things for myself. So the shock of washing my own clothes, taking out the bins and other somewhat adult chores wasn't as big of a deal for me. However finding the time in the day to do all the things in which I am supposed to do can sometimes be a little bit of a struggle. 

Overall university so far has been such an exciting and amazing experience. Juggling an academic life along with a social life means that no two days are ever the same. Although this is only my third month hear so far, I look forward to what the next three to four years holds for me.

N x

Thursday, 8 September 2016

Judgemental People

Judgemental people are always something you are going to encounter throughout your life. No matter how old you are or where you are in your life, there will always be someone who disagrees with what you are doing. It is easy to restrict yourself because of this. You can restrict yourself from doing what you want to do as you're too nervous about others opinions. This is something that I have done a lot in the past, which has made become somewhat rebellious in the time after. You tend to put yourself in a box due to the fear of what others will think of you, which when you build up the courage to break out of the box. You can sometimes do something which is out of your nature. This is what I have found with me, but I know that others react differently.

The way I tend to deal with judgemental people now days is to listen to what they say, as sometimes their thoughts can help. So I take time to breathe and reflect on whether what has been said is true or not. If it's not for whatever reason, even if there's no exact reason other than the way you feel, I would continue to do it. As long as you're happy, safe and healthy whilst doing the thing that people judge you for that's all that matters. The only person who's going to be with you throughout your whole life is in fact you, the person reading this right now. So you should live your life for yourself.

N x